Along with the troubling issues you experience with your last partner were feelings of hopelessness, despair, isolation and grief. You realize you’ve involved yourself with someone suffering from Narcissist Personality Disorder (NPD).
They don’t go together because in order to be mindful you have to face the truth in your relationships.
A quick definition of a NPD: a condition in which the individual is never at fault, no matter how conclusive the evidence otherwise. A narcissistic person is a destructive force in the world with its energy focused on breaking down, tearing apart and creating fear and separation rather than building and unifying. In short, it is a disorder or mental illness that causes a lot of pain for both the narcissist and those who love him.
Not the best mix for mindful, graceful living.
Now that you accept the fact that the person you thought you had been looking for all your life is a fraud and an impostor, you end it; stay out of contact, delete the photos; and after a while of restoration, you are ready to try dating again.
Natural trepidation begins because you had created a survival paradigm that included adapting your mindfulness to handle someone with extremely corrosive dysfunctional behavior.
1. Take Inventory.
Do an inventory of your own co-dependency and un-integrated ego issues, which had you protecting him for your own benefit. Notice the new opportunity and expansive ways to champion yourself and become impeccably respectful and kind with your own self-care.
The Presence Process, by Michael Brown is an excellent resource for integrating productive habits and patterns. Under no circumstances—unless you have to co-parent—let them back in to your life. Stay with no contact.
2. Reorient Yourself.
Reorient your sub-conscious so that the emotional triggers that allowed this partner to enter in the first place will become redirected toward a healthy mate. This will help you reject any red-flag behavior as soon as it occurs and will consciously change any limiting programs to create a new, expansive conclusion for your future.
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About the Author
Kendall Colman is a guest contributor with MeetMindful. She is the Founder & CEO of Colman & Company, the highly recognized leadership performance firm based in Denver, Colorado.
Kendall is currently is the only endorsed vendor for leadership and organizational development by the Colorado Bankers Association, and is an Executive Coach for the Colorado Technology Association.
She is also founder of Center Stage, Executive Presence Speaking Program, and the Safari Woman Project, a leadership program for executive women and Rainmaker by Noon, a sales coaching program.
Kendall has authored numerous articles on leadership, and is a frequent conference speaker. She also has been involved with someone with NPD.